Some who, what, when, where, why, and even a little how

Where do I even start? The first thing that comes to mind when writing this is Tinder or Hinge. The idea of taking an in-progress memoir and making it even more condensed seems diminishing. But maybe that’s narcissistic. If this wasn’t condensed that would defeat the point of an introduction, wouldn’t it?

My name is Max Micallef (they/he/she), and I’m a proud Queer identifying person both in sexual orientation and gender identity. I’m also a proud democratic socialist and LGBTQ+ rights activist here in New York State and beyond. I continue to hold multiple different political and advocacy roles that…

The journey within a journey of living a sober, queer life

Disclaimer: This article discusses topics including but not limited to different types of addictions, substance abuse as a whole, and various aspects/areas of mental health.

In a morbid humor type of way, it’s very ironic to tell people I stopped drinking at the age of twenty-one. Similar to a firefighter putting out the flames of their own burning house. Or maybe putting out the flames before it got to a point of no return. Getting sober was one of the best decisions I have ever made for myself. …

Asexual people have always existed, and we need to further validate them as part of our community

Coming from a similar stream of thought as my pre-Pride Month reflection, I’m really excited to see how we as a queer collective are starting to address our inter-marginalization. In this case, the marginalization of queer people within the queer community itself. This towards specific queer identities themselves, and intersectional identities on lines like race and disability. Bi, pan, and individually queer people (like myself) uplifted as representations of the spectrums that are sexual and gendered existence.

One group of people I see receiving the attention they are owed is the asexual community. The “A” in “LGBTQIA+”. …

Spinning truths to excuse bad behavior doesn’t change the truth in your favor

I recently published an article on how I believe it is all of our responsibilities, LGBTQ+ or not, to reject bigoted candidacies like Caitlyn Jenner’s run for Governor of California. One reply to it was a response that went along the lines of, “I agree, but…” which is already a strong sign the person actually doesn’t agree. If you don’t agree, just say you don’t agree. That “but” usually comes up when people say things like, “I’m not homophobic, but…” or “I’m not racist, but…” or “I’m not sexist/misogynistic, but…” Sociologically speaking, that’s called a disclaimer. This idea that adding…

I know I’m late to the game, but it was great without it

I am not embarrassed at all. Deleting all of my social media over three years ago was the second best decision I have ever made for myself. Since then, all I kept was one… maybe two dating apps. I started this Medium account along the way and a Reddit only recently. Now that I’m in a place where I could care less if I have social media, meaning the positives outway the negatives rather than some high horse stance on it, I decided to “join the grid” again. Well, just Twitter.

Yes, I’ll be 24 years old in June, I’m…

Views on what it means to be queer, our community as a whole, and how we move forward together

Pride Month is just around the corner. After last year’s Pride events were canceled due to the pandemic, this is our first Pride back where vaccination rates are high, many of us queer folk will be able to come together again to celebrate who we are. Amongst the pain and struggle our world collective continues to go through in facing COVID’s layered ramifications, there were plenty of moments people took as an opportunity to reflect. Reflection on who we are as people, individually and together, and who we want to be or become.

In terms of my sexual orientation, I…

An introductory guide to sexual orientation, gender identity, and other aspects of life; LGBTQ+ or not

Hello! Welcome to Queer Education: 101. Whether you are LGBTQ+ identifying or not, I’m glad you’ve decided to educate yourself on issues all of us interact with and hold simply because we are human beings. I’m “Professor” Micallef, but you can just call me Max. I’m just cool like that… or maybe I’m trying to form a bond with my students so my job becomes less strenuous in a country that treats educators like garbage. Please give me some leeway here.

I personally identify as Queer both in sexual orientation and gender identity. The “Q” in “LGBTQ+”. Though not pertaining…

Find out how much you are paying for Israeli weaponry with this brilliant tool from a much-needed organization

Through our tax dollars, the U.S. spends an annual $3.8 billion, yes, billion, (though even a penny is far too much) towards funding the Israeli government’s military. Meaning, your tax dollars are going directly towards the literally weaponized, violent oppression of Palestinian people. As we know, this isn’t news by any means. But what if we took a minute to zoom in from such a broad lens? What if you could know exactly how much the place you call home, your local government, is spending towards funding the violation of Palestinian human rights?

The U.S. Campaign for Palestinian Rights has…

Aspects of my mental health have changed, and that’s more than okay. Yours has as well.

Disclaimer: This article discusses accounts of, including but not limited to, depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder. Additonally, this article does not contain medical advice nor am I a medical professional. Please speak with a accredited mental health practioner for adivce on the topics discussed below.

After a long period of doing really well, I have decided to seek professional mental health support again. At first, I felt a little bit like a failure or incapable. But I snapped out of that for the most part. My left-brain, logical side reminded me of the fluid reality that is the human experience…

“I’m trying to get people not just to elect me… but for people to pave their own way towards what they care about.”

Disclaimer: This interview discusses mental health accounts including but not limited to suicide and suicidal ideation. Additonally, this article does not contain medical advice. Please speak with a accredited mental health practioner for adivce on the topics discussed below.

The stakes are high this election season for the people of New York City. As we watch the Mayoral, Comptroller, Public Advocate, City Council, and Borough President races closely, what’s gearing up as well are the U.S. Congressional races that will play a big part in how effective the progressive wave sweeping through the country, especially New York State will be.

Max Micallef

Democratic socialist Queer rights activist who is sexually liberated and uplifts mental health. Email me:

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